Something feels off, and you can’t quite put your finger on it. You know something needs to change, but no matter how much you try, the same struggles keep showing up—in your marriage, your parenting, and even in the way you see yourself.
Do any of these sound familiar:
You walk on eggshells around certain people, feeling responsible for their emotions.
You have a deep fear of failure and worry constantly about making mistakes.
You’re terrified of “messing up” your kids—no matter how much you try to get it right.
You’ve read all the books, you know all the skills, but there’s a part of you that just doesn’t want use them.
You struggle to ask for help and believe you need to handle everything alone.
You feel like the worst person in the world when you set a boundary—if you even know what a healthy boundary looks like.
Your self-worth is tied to external validation. You either overwork to prove yourself or feel anxious when people aren’t happy with you.
You take things personally—or you don’t have a filter when you speak.
You feel drained, resentful, or taken advantage of in relationships.
Perfectionism runs your life.
People have called you “controlling” or “rigid,” but deep down, you just want things to feel safe and predictable.
You grew up with emotionally immature parents, leaving you unsure of what healthy relationships even look like. Read more on the signs you grew up with emotionally immature parents.
These patterns don’t just come out of nowhere. They’re often rooted in old wounds, generational cycles, and emotional conditioning that shaped how you show up in relationships.
“What we do not heal in childhood, we replay in adulthood”
Therapy for men
Many of the husbands I work with feel frustrated, shut down, or like they can’t get it right in their marriage, no matter how hard they try. You may find yourself withdrawing during conflict, becoming defensive, or carrying resentment you don’t fully understand. Let’s break out of these patterns, understand what’s really happening underneath the surface, and show up as a more grounded, confident, and connected partner, without losing yourself in the process.
Marriage Counseling
Much of what creates tension in our marriages and families comes from patterns we didn’t consciously choose, but inherited. Your nervous system learned how to protect you long before you had the words or awareness to understand it. Those same protective patterns can now show up as disconnection, conflict, or emotional distance with the people you love most. The work is learning how to recognize these patterns and choose something different.
Family of Origin healing
What isn’t healed in childhood often continues to shape how you see yourself, relate to others, and show up in your closest relationships. Struggles with self-esteem, boundaries, over-functioning, or codependency rarely begin in adulthood, they are rooted in adaptations that once helped you belong, stay safe, or feel loved. When you understand the deeper origins of these patterns, you can begin to relate differently to yourself and to the people around you.
