When bringing up a conflict, the best way to lower the listeners defenses, and to feel heard, is to stay on your side of the line. Below are 5 easy steps to follow when you need to bring something up to you spouse.
When you are arguing with your spouse, chances are, you are really trying to get a need met. Maybe it's that you want to feel heard, and you want your spouse to understand your perspective. However, the way you've been going about it might be sabotaging your relationship, perhaps your spouse gets defensive, and the two of you end up going around in circles.